7 reasons why every woman should understand the unwritten rules at her (future) workplace
Yes, besides those written rules about when people get promoted, how big salary raise one gets or how companies collaborate with entrepreneurs – there are also the other ones. The Unwritten Rules. And here are the seven reasons why you should understand them.
- You will finally understand what’s going on
During our studies, we are used to get rewarded for our study efforts – you perform good and you get correspondingly good marks. But once you have started to work, it might happen that despite all of your efforts – they just skip you. They skip you for being in lead, they skip you for interesting tasks in a project or for getting a salary raise. Once you understand what kind of behavior or beliefs are rewarded, you can consciously adopt these styles (and still be yourself) when you need them.
- You will realize that it’s not your fault
Every time you were skipped for that promotion or you were not invited to that second-round interview, believe me – it was not your fault. And understanding the unwritten rules (the basis of which these decisions are made) you will finally get it. It’s not your fault.
- You can go out of the “gender bias bubble”
Did you know that in many organizations, men and women actually do not get equally payed for exactly the same work that they do? And that is a typical example of an unwritten rule that is embedded in these organizations – people are biased about how the two genders should be payed for exactly the same performance. Once you are aware of this, you can better negotiate your remuneration.
- You can reach your career goals much faster
Let’s say that you want to go from point A to point B, and you can walk that distance. But when you are about 4 years old, you can learn how to cycle. And then you will reach your destination even faster. It is the same in your career – if you understand the unwritten rules, you can also choose to use them to reach your career goals faster.
- You can have a fair start for the leadership sprint
Historically, many organizations were founded by men and therefore, many of these unwritten rules were established by men. Since men and women have different working styles, both due to nature and nurture, many of these rules are unknown for women. And this is unfair, especially if you want to climb higher on the influence line, which is a sprint-like activity nowadays. In case of sprint race, a whistle is blown and everyone knows that they should start the run. But if the whistle is silent, only people that have previously run the race will know about it.
- You will have more fun at work
Does building your career sometimes feels like being in a survival game? The way of working and work itself should actually also be fun and pleasant! If you discover the strategy of your “counterpart” in this survival game – your colleagues and your superiors, you can play the game in a more relaxed and fun way.
- Once you reach influential positions, you can actually change these rules
By saying that you should learn the unwritten rules, I am not saying that they are the perfect way how things should work. Completely opposite – since they were mainly established only by men, women should give their contribution and change the rules where that could be beneficial.
I hope that some of the reasons above inspired you on how you can get more influence on your own career.
Aggressive and hard-charging women violate unwritten rules about acceptable social conduct. Men are continually applauded for being ambitious and powerful and successful, but women who display these same traits often pay a social penalty. Female accomplishments come at a cost.